Sex crimes
People ask me how I like my new job as an investigator. I tell them that the hours are nice, but I had no idea how much of my life would be spent sitting at a desk, going through pictures of phalli.
We live in a very, very different world than we did, 30 years ago.
When I was in my teens, I did not have a device in my possession which could pull up websites capable of meeting people around the globe, chatting with them anonymously in real time, and letting us take pictures and video of our genitals to send to each other. So there were not 13 year old girls getting extorted by foreign creeps who had talked them out of their clothes as well as their identities and social media accounts. There were not men posing as boys, meeting girls online. There were not men posing as fathers of pre-teen girls, soliciting sex from other women with their alleged daughters online. There were not men meeting up online with confused girls who had [literally] infantile fantasies.
We live in a very, very similar world to what we've had forever.
We have teachers having sex with students. We have brothers molesting their sisters, and making them cover it up. We have juvenile rape. We have adult drunken rape. We have buyer's remorse "rapes," in which the victim decides later to call the sex rape. We have enticing of minors. We have family members groping other family members in their sleep. We have teen boys stealing women's underwear.
Honestly? I'm thankful for the residential burglary and the identity theft cases that I've got to break of the monotony.
One of the common themes that I've seen has been repression of sex by the victim's family. In the last year, I've caught one and a half (just helped on one) cases involving a young woman from a sexually repressive family, declaring that she was raped when her family found out that she was having sex. I had a case in which the child's parents had chided the victim as a toddler for being immodest because she took her shirt off around the house, which seems to have contributed to the child not making an outcry for years of her brother molesting her. I've had a retraction of a victim's outcry, when her grandmother told her that she was going to ruin the family.
I'd frankly like to get back to putting other kinds of bad guys and gals in jail.
Please.
Labels: Bah, brooding, buzzkill, day at the office, Gripes, Investigator Detail, police, sex
posted by Matt G @ 11:23 PM
5 Comments:
Don't envy you a bit, my friend. But what you are doing IS important.
The consequences of sex being too taboo for discussion are unfortunate.
Yuck!
Sir,
I would submit that the work you are doing now is some of the most important that an officer can do. A murder victim no longer feels the pain that preceded death, the families, hopefully, come to terms with thiers. Those who are assaulted heal and those stolen from replace things. The damage done by the sexual preditor continues to harm can transfer to the next generation as the children of abuse repeat that pattern. You arrest one preditor you save many lives. Please remember to guard against the toll the work will extract from you.
Please find other avenues whenever possible. Officers I've known say there is no more soul-destroying, though necessary, work.
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