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If you don't draw yours, I won't draw mine. A police officer, working in the small town that he lives in, focusing on family and shooting and coffee, and occasionally putting some people in jail.

Monday, April 15, 2013

Handshakes. Do it right.

--I shook the hand today of yet another healthy grown man who didn't know how to shake hands. Friends, practice doing this correctly:
1. Open the strong hand (usually one's right) and blade the four fingers together.
2. Stick that blade of fingers straight out, vertically-oriented, with forefinger on top and pinky finger on the bottom. They are pointing in the Z axis, and stacked along the Y axis.  
3. Stick the thumb out at about a 45 degree angle from rest of the hand, looking at the hand from the rear (along the Z axis). If the hand is looked at from the back of the hand (along the X axis), the thumb should be seen to project out at a slightly acute angle from the hand, at say a 75 degree angle.
4. Hold out the hand thusly, and push it toward your target hand-shaker. Do NOT push it out all the way. You MUST retain some tolerance for the push to dock with the target's hand.
5. Glance briefly at the target's hand, and then look him in the eye. He will also attempt to shake your hand at this point, or will create an awkward moment. It is imperative that you believe that he will not leave you hanging.
6. When the target has similarly fixed his hand into shaking position, you push your open hand toward his so that the web between your thumb and forefinger firmly meets the web of his hand. This is mandatory. If this is not performed, start over.
7. Upon pushing hand webs together, ONLY NOW MAY YOU grasp the target's hand firmly, and shake it once or twice.
8. Do NOT try to break the target's hand. But don't just sit there limply like a dead fish, either.
9. It is okay to glance at the hands during docking, but during the shake, one is expected to look the other in the eye.
10. For special affection, gripping the arm of your target during the shake is permitted. This is called The Preacher's Handshake.

I shook the hand of every citizen that I met during traffic stops and calls, today.

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At Tuesday, April 16, 2013 11:14:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I HATE those half handshakes! The ones by the fingers only.
What's up with that?

Thanks for addressing this.


At Tuesday, April 16, 2013 2:51:00 PM, Blogger Well Seasoned Fool said...

A few years back, "Personal Power" seminars taught placing your hand out horizontally with your palm down. Theory was/is when the other person puts their hand in the "inferior" position, you have established dominances.

At Tuesday, April 16, 2013 3:53:00 PM, Blogger Old NFO said...

Good point, nothing worse than a dead fish handshake... Makes me want to wipe my hand off afterward...

At Wednesday, April 17, 2013 5:59:00 AM, Blogger J.R.Shirley said...

I wouldn't shake someone's hand who's presenting it at such an odd angle, Fool. So all they would have established is that they're an idiot.

At Wednesday, April 17, 2013 7:32:00 AM, Blogger Matt G said...

Well said, John.

At Wednesday, April 17, 2013 7:46:00 AM, Blogger Well Seasoned Fool said...

@ JRS. Don't disagree with you. In a business situation, I might go along with them. It will give ME an edge knowing their insecurity. Social situation? They will have a sore wrist.

At Wednesday, April 17, 2013 7:51:00 PM, Blogger J.R.Shirley said...

Well, it's possible I might ask, are you okay?- since there's obviously something wrong with them.

At Friday, April 19, 2013 6:06:00 AM, Blogger Matt G said...

Eh? Me or WSF? I'm fine. Sore from yesterday's workout, maybe. Huh?

At Friday, April 19, 2013 8:10:00 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Armedlaughing, way back when (the 1940s-50s) some manners books for ladies said that women who did not feel comfortable with the person they were being introduced to should only extend a few fingers, or should grip the other person's hand loosely and release it quickly. All while wearing gloves.

I've seen more recent books claim that if you are meeting someone from certain parts of SE Asia and some American Indians, you grip the finger tips only. *shrug* Strange world.


At Friday, April 19, 2013 9:37:00 AM, Blogger Well Seasoned Fool said...

@JRS. Since I spent three decades in the retail automobile business, I'm probably a taco short of a combination plate.

People are what they are; you just deal with them. Sales, medical, LEO's and more are daily interaction with people.

At Saturday, April 20, 2013 4:07:00 PM, Blogger Chas S. Clifton said...

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